Trust..

Let me start this post by saying that 'Man is a social animal'. Well, that produces a very big base for me to write on but would like to write on 'Trust' - the perceptional thing present in the minds of the people that very much helpsin keeping persons together. A person might be very social but intuitively maintins a respective trust level with all of them. He might hold loads or high levels of trust for a particular person, and at the same time little or none for the other person. But at the same time it may not be necessary that he is not social or he does not talk to the person he does not trust.

Trust in an individuals mind builds upon several factors. Time, would at 80% of the cases, be the most critical factor which helps building the rapport between persons. The more time they spend together, the more they know each other and thus building or destroying the trust within them. But in exceptions even time does not help building the trust.

One more factor which can have a considerable weightage is the trust shown or put in by the other person. The simple assurance that the person in front of you shows faith in you will affect the faith you show in him/her. This fact makes it much controversial, in the sense that you might not put in the same trust in a person because you think that person does not trust you, but that person also might think the same way that you dont trust him. There comes a communication gap or a mind block !!

Trust takes the past very much in consideration, say, a person did not show trust on a particular past event, a fact which will deter you from trusting that person again !! Unless that person is your one of your loved ones !!

Summarizing it : -

=> Trust is a base on which you place foundations of a healthy or otherwise relationships.

The base if strong leads to a great realtionship to last a lifetime and I would like to assert the existence of a limit line evrytime & which if you pass in a relationship, it might hurt & a wound which will remain till the end !! Remember your best friend whom you will trust everytime giving credit to the time you'll had together, the trust he/she had in you & past events where that person was along everytime !!

Need, Its Power & the Feelings

As humans, we always have a need.. everytime we fulfill our basic needs, we always crave for higher n higher needs.. Need can defined as the 'physiological or pyschological requirement for the well-being of an organism'. I would define every need as possessing some strange power hidden within. Power, in this case, would be the power of this need that can affect the feelings of a human. This power is a pure perception of the human mind, but holds reasonable accolades with respect to the feelings attached with the need.

Complex..?? Naah.. For keeping it simple, every need can be either satifisfied or would require some time to fulfill. For eg. A need like buying a chocolate, you might have a specific need for Cadbury but because of Stock out, you might end up buying a Kit – kat rather. In this example, the need of a Cadbury had very little power and could not affect your feelings because of may be you could do away with the other option available, Kit – Kat. Also, This need was fulfilled very quickly due to its easy availability & also available options. Wow.. that was simple, isn’t it.. Cadbury nahin toh Kit Kat hi sahi… But figure this out…
You like a girl, oh.. I cannot say she is a need, but to respect the scope of this chimera let me say she is your need. Is there any alternative?? Probably not incase you care for her very much. Well what happens in this case, the power of your need is so much that it affects your feelings. This need if not fulfilled will surely affect the feelings. In other words, the more the power of the need, want or desire, the more the affect seen on the feelings attached to it.

For better functionality of the explanation, I provided a need for a girl you like, the same may be expressed for a need, say, a car, a laptop, also would carry the similar power ranges. For me, they would be certainly below than the power of the need expressed in the example.

Finally, stressing again on saying that Power of the need is a pure perception of the mind which affects the Feelings attached with that particular need. Alternatives to a particular need would always help keep down the power of that need, which would indeed help in keeping the Feelings low.

But does every Need have alternatives.. !!

Expectations....

Writing to my blog after almost a month, but found quite a strange topic to write on.. This topic has been lingering around in my mind from quite some time now.. I would like to share my thoughts on Expectations - the only thing that one expects out of the person in front of him, and which can change the whole relation.

"Expectation" - One word which has the capability to change the thinking of a person with regards to another person.... Expectations can change the whole perspective of the relation that the person has with the person in front.

Expectations are always present in the human mind.. A person always unknowingly expects the person in front of him/her to behave in a certain manner..

When was the last time you did expect something from a person ? You might not remember it.. Its natural... It could be friend of yours cursing you for not calling up for the past 2 days.. it could be you who was expecting a call from a friend but doesnt in the end turn up...

Does that make you think what could have made him/her not call you up ?? The next day you might end up shouting at that person for not calling.. In every case, its not possible to shout at the other person... In this example, I took a very simple case in almost everybodies life.. But somewhere this expectation carries a weight with it..

Another example might be, Your boss expected from you to complete a specific task, if u complete it or not eitherways it shows up directly on your impression on your boss..

Expectations always come in bundles, you never know .. These bundles are sometimes small thus not affecting the relation, but the otherways affecting you or your relationship with the person you kept your expectations on.

Expectations sometimes kill good relations !! Never Expect Anything out of your relationship with others !! Never expect a friend to act in a particular manner unless otherways .. The best relation, according to me, would be between the persons who do not expect anything from each other..!! Thats the best way to a strong relationship..!!

Herbi to Carni...

"Just Try it" were my best friend's common statement to me whenever we used to dine outside. Before the clock chimed for the advent of the new year, I was a pure herbi..a puuuuure veggie.. I loved being one, and my friends hated me being one... My friend always said that If i try once i wont forget it again..

One fine day, I tasted chicken and to my amazement ... it was amaaazin... "phew!" exclaimed my friend who had been tryin to do this since years... I had finally tasted chicken and could very well now call myself a carnivore....

Going back to the time when I was a veggie, the mere thoughts of one killing the chicken always frightened me and detered me from that lovely food..

Chicken, now, I think is really tasty and finally can conclude why people are crazy after it... Starting with chicken, i still dont know what I might taste tommorrow.. and would love that too...

As of now, I am freaking out on chicken, trying out the various delicacies available.. my mom has already gone berserk on the news of this.. but concluding that chicken is amazin..

Somebody Stop me..!!!

Surfing Blues ! ! !

The internet is a lovely source of information.. It was the best thing happened in the field of technology.. It is now a month that I am trying belch out information from the biggest reservoirs of information.. Phew!! The internet, now, according to me is divided in to parts, one for orkutting and the other for the information that I am trying to search.. As far as orkutting is concerned, hours put together be less.. Ha ha.. nevertheless, hours put together also for finding out the required information also can be too less, but with one major difference..

You dont need to count the time you worked, because you always look at the watch and plead for the time to pass away faster.. On the other hand, we could only hope that the world comes to a stop for a while you are busy orkutting...

I am in a stage today where for the purpose of completing my project on market research I have already filtered through 300 supplier sites.. and never know how many still to go.. I am on the verge of becoming a expert at moving my index finger on the laptop.. ha ha.. please spare me of your thoughts at this..!!

Hope to find out the required data through the vast source and complete my project on time...