Assume data wherever necessary

It a common rule in most of the academic papers we write, atleast in engineering papers, where they mention a rule "Assume suitable data wherever necessary" which subtly means that they should not be blamed in case there are any discrepancies in data sufficiency!! I suppose they have kept that as a template as I was never surprised to find that rule mentioned even in theory papers !! Leave apart the education system, I had never thought that really applied in real life, of course, not in all cases.


Did I surprise you, may be not, its pretty much a fact of life. We assume suitable things here and there before checking them and even before realizing what impact would it have on the relationships surrounding you.But we are comfortable assuming things. The moment we get some what comfortable with new people around us, we tend to assume things about them before they are actually clarified. There are many times when you assume things even after being in a relation for a long time and may be times when you dont even know the person. Now how many people have assumed Priyanka chopra is a great person by nature even before knowing her??

Remember the last time, when you saw your boss shouting at your colleague at something and you assumed that he was arrogant, cruel etc etc. But the next time you confronted him he was all not that bad !! Personally speaking, I really did go through the example mentioned above at my workplace. That was about your boss, he is meant to be arrogant at times, just to meet the company targets. Lets understand how that might be when we talk about someone like a friend, a relative. A friend of yours who is really short tempered, does it make him/her really bad at heart. Naah,Wrong thing to assume !! Many a times people might behave different in the situations they face in life and would be heavily characterized by their daily mood, problems issues faced in life etc. I personally have asked a friend of mine if he had a bad day that day after he scolded me once, and he really did have a bad day... But it was really good for him to open up and let me know the reasons or else my stupid mind would have assumed many things about him that day and maybe that would have seriously affected our friendship !! That was the day when I really went by the motto "Dare to assume and care to understand"

Remember the next time you assume suitable things about your near and dear ones, they might really prove to be a dent in the relationship.. Thanks.

Perception

Does the way in which the worlds perceives you matter at all ?

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Perception, to define it in simple words, would be the way someone perceives another being to be. His/her characteristics, behaviour, good points, bad points are all stored in the minds of the audience based on previous instances. Once those are stored, they always are refreshed when that person is back in front of them. To change one's perception is very difficult - thats what people say.

"First Impression is the Last impression" is always the phrase repeated by many professors to their students to help them understand that once the impression is created in the mind, theres very little scope to change that again. Many many people in this world feel that one has to be himself / herself and not copy anyone else's traits. I do not completely disagree that, but at the end of the day it matters a lot when it comes to interaction with the world. The world would make a big picture about your character, positives, negatives etc and will always keep an impression in his/her mind. The next time you meet the same person, he already knows the way you behave and the way you socialize. Let me take an example, I am known to be a short tempered person, yeah theres still a divide on this within the social circle I am with most of the times. But those who have perceived me to be a short-tempered person will always ensure they dont cross the lines when being with me. Now personally I feel, I have very much overcome that short - temperedness (whatever it took me to realize, read Anger Management) Even today when a person meets me it has always been to my notice, that s/he still feels I havent done my lessons properly. Its all about perception. It might be atmost difficult to change a perception that has been bred in the minds for quite a long time now.

Imagine people going for an interview, the first impression is the last impression truly. The way you approach situations, problems is answered in the perception created in the interviewer's mind and yes of course, thats created by you itself, Isnt it ? Once you are done with the interview, you might get a feedback that you might be expecting but something that would not be expecting. The strangest thing would be to create such a perception to the interviewer which might not be the case - the so called wrong-impression.

Till today, It hasnt been possible to read peoples mind and possibly change the way they think about you as a person. The only way one can change the perception is to change the thinking method that one employs. Put yourself in the person's position and assess your behaviour - a best and the only method according to me for introspection. Perception cannot be destroyed, but can be modified and at the end of the day, I think its the way the world looks towards you as a person which matters the most and not that of the "man in the mirror" !!!

Law of the Garbage Truck

The morning had already begun by witnessing a brawl between two passengers, while commuting in the local train in my homtown, Mumbai. Rather than such quarrels occuring on day-basis, I would say these quarrels occur on an hourly-basis or maybe even less than that. At every step, every life you encounter with in Mumbai would be running to earn his bread-n-butter (job)...

Post an hour of travel to workplace, I came across a lovely mail and it very well echoed what I witnessed in the morning and what should be done to make this world a beautiful place to live in.. 

The mail is called as Law of the Garbage truck and it goes like this

"One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! 

The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly. So I asked, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!' This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.' 

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full offrustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally, just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets. 

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so...Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't. 

Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it! Have a blessed, garbage-free day! " 

Wouldn't be it wonderful if everyone adopts this law in each ones life ?? We will just put behind all the differences and make this world a better place to live in ...

 

Trust..

Let me start this post by saying that 'Man is a social animal'. Well, that produces a very big base for me to write on but would like to write on 'Trust' - the perceptional thing present in the minds of the people that very much helpsin keeping persons together. A person might be very social but intuitively maintins a respective trust level with all of them. He might hold loads or high levels of trust for a particular person, and at the same time little or none for the other person. But at the same time it may not be necessary that he is not social or he does not talk to the person he does not trust.

Trust in an individuals mind builds upon several factors. Time, would at 80% of the cases, be the most critical factor which helps building the rapport between persons. The more time they spend together, the more they know each other and thus building or destroying the trust within them. But in exceptions even time does not help building the trust.

One more factor which can have a considerable weightage is the trust shown or put in by the other person. The simple assurance that the person in front of you shows faith in you will affect the faith you show in him/her. This fact makes it much controversial, in the sense that you might not put in the same trust in a person because you think that person does not trust you, but that person also might think the same way that you dont trust him. There comes a communication gap or a mind block !!

Trust takes the past very much in consideration, say, a person did not show trust on a particular past event, a fact which will deter you from trusting that person again !! Unless that person is your one of your loved ones !!

Summarizing it : -

=> Trust is a base on which you place foundations of a healthy or otherwise relationships.

The base if strong leads to a great realtionship to last a lifetime and I would like to assert the existence of a limit line evrytime & which if you pass in a relationship, it might hurt & a wound which will remain till the end !! Remember your best friend whom you will trust everytime giving credit to the time you'll had together, the trust he/she had in you & past events where that person was along everytime !!

Expectations....

Writing to my blog after almost a month, but found quite a strange topic to write on.. This topic has been lingering around in my mind from quite some time now.. I would like to share my thoughts on Expectations - the only thing that one expects out of the person in front of him, and which can change the whole relation.

"Expectation" - One word which has the capability to change the thinking of a person with regards to another person.... Expectations can change the whole perspective of the relation that the person has with the person in front.

Expectations are always present in the human mind.. A person always unknowingly expects the person in front of him/her to behave in a certain manner..

When was the last time you did expect something from a person ? You might not remember it.. Its natural... It could be friend of yours cursing you for not calling up for the past 2 days.. it could be you who was expecting a call from a friend but doesnt in the end turn up...

Does that make you think what could have made him/her not call you up ?? The next day you might end up shouting at that person for not calling.. In every case, its not possible to shout at the other person... In this example, I took a very simple case in almost everybodies life.. But somewhere this expectation carries a weight with it..

Another example might be, Your boss expected from you to complete a specific task, if u complete it or not eitherways it shows up directly on your impression on your boss..

Expectations always come in bundles, you never know .. These bundles are sometimes small thus not affecting the relation, but the otherways affecting you or your relationship with the person you kept your expectations on.

Expectations sometimes kill good relations !! Never Expect Anything out of your relationship with others !! Never expect a friend to act in a particular manner unless otherways .. The best relation, according to me, would be between the persons who do not expect anything from each other..!! Thats the best way to a strong relationship..!!

The Right to Love .. ?

" Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. "

As said by my friend and friends who have or had been in love..." The world is said to be different, the air smells more mesmerising, the environment around you becomes more interesting, you start smiling at the persons you used to hate, you think of nothing but that lovely person you have in life. In all, it gives you a new reason of you coming into existence into this now a lovely & then interesting world "

Felt happy for them...

... Nevertheless, a time arrived when it was exactly the reverse when they had broken up. The world had like come to a stop for them, which changes a lot of things in their lives... but you never stop living, do you ?
So, what does actually justifies love ? or more rightly said let me try expressing a thought on the Right to love...

"Jaane kyun log pyar karte hain.." a song which had Aamir khan singing in Dil chahta hai, very well clicks my mind when I observe instances like these... but in the movie end he still falls in love and expecting the perfect end, they lived happily ever after..

But that was reel life !!!

Coming to real life, one of my very good friend also fell in love with a girl citing the co-incidence of studying in the same college. He liked her and had also conveyed his thoughts to her efficiently, they were even good friends so the communication didnt take much efforts.. but in the end, it couldnt be a better story to tell..

He broke up badly, he couldnt forget her and failed miserably at the exams... Was he a perfect human ?

Yep.. you read it right.. Humans...

As humans, we have been endowed upon the right to express yourself, the freedom for expression but not fully the right to love someone..

By asserting on right to love, I mean that the right that the individual has to love a person, despite knowing the fact that he/she would break down if that person does not repond in an expected manner..

In other words, does an individual have right to trouble himself by falling in love for that person...

Back to the example cited, my friend, loved someone dearly but was not repaid in a similar manner, so did he have the right to love her.. But that surely did hurt him, and finally cursed himself for falling in love with that person..

Also, thinking from the other side, we cant annihilate the right expressed by his love, the girl..can we ?

So who decides the right to love of an individual...

Maybe we need to pay attention to statements like "Love is blind"...

or ultimately saying the soul of a person and/or finally to god.. And as usual leave it to god hoping that whatever he does is for our betterment..

"We never get what we want, We never want what we get, We never have what we like, We never like what we have. Still we live, still we love and still we hope, This is Life" - Anonymous